1. Just because you deny someone a title, doesn’t mean you can force them not to feel anything. There’s a reason “actions speak louder than words” is a cliche, it’s because our actions belie our intentions — even when we don’t want them to. The truth is that you if act like a boyfriend to someone, you can’t be surprised or upset when they develop boyfriend-girlfriend feelings for you, even if you use all the words in the world to tell them not to.
2. Not wanting to define a relationship doesn’t make you “chill” — not being afraid of having one does. There’s no shortage of guys who say they “don’t do drama” in one breathe and then lead a girl on into what absolutely inevitably becomes a dramatic situation with the next. Laid back relationships require communication — when you’re honest with someone with your words and actions there’s no extra work required to be on the same page: no guessing what a vague text message means, no waiting to text them back to seem less into it. You just get to live your life the way you want to and enjoy someone else’s company on your terms.