7 Tips for Overcoming Jealousy in Relationships3

7 Tips for Overcoming Jealousy in Relationships

“It is not love that is blind, but jealousy.”

“He’s so jealous, I have to face the wall in restaurants!”

Kevin sat beside her, rather meekly.

“Mark, can you please make him understand that I love him,” Katherine continued. “I don’t want anybody else. But his insane jealousy is going to tear us apart unless something changes.”

Kevin admitted that when they went out in public, he would insist she sit toward a wall so that she couldn’t see (or be seen by) other potential attractive mates. If he caught her chatting or joking with male neighbours or colleagues, he would assume right off she was having an affair. She had stopped seeing a really good male friend she’d known since childhood and he’d “banned” her from chatting to a 70-year-old married man who lived next door. This was maddening.

His jealousy was all-encompassing; from attractive male movie stars to male teachers of her young children. At first (before realizing how destructive it was to become), she’d been flattered by the intensity of his jealous attentions – after all, it showed he cared, right? But the constant anxiety, loss of her freedom, and sheer clinginess (he would text every half-hour if she went out with a girlfriend) were now torture to her and also to him.

Most people feel a little jealous sometimes, especially when they have strong feelings of attraction and love for their partner, and a little jealousy occasionally can add zest to a relationship. But just as a spark can illuminate a room, a blaze can burn it to the ground. So what’s behind jealousy?

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